I think I’m giving off Extreme Brain Bad Stuff pheromones or s/t bc my friend is literally letting me copy his linguistics takehome midterm essay 100% like I didn’t contribute anything & he is being so sweet abt it and he sent me a link 2 little mix’s wings w the note ‘here’s a nice little song to help you through tonight’
GOD DAMN IT I JUST MADE THE BIGGEST ASS OF MYSELF IN CLASS my professor who is a dude decides 2 start talking abt how women call each other bitches & hos & ~~what do we think of that?~~ and a bunch of ppl kept being like YEAH WOMEN SHDN’T DO THAT, IT MAKES IT EASIER 4 MEN 2 & I just FUCKING CHRIST ended up raising my voice and swearing in this huge lecture uuuguugghgh
if you seriously think theon greyjoy’s storyline is somehow proof sexual violence isn’t gendered, i would go read adwd again because his arc is like All About Emasculating Him? he is literally castrated and is made to wholly internalize the notion that he is less than a man and is unworthy of ‘manhood’
if what you take from that is ‘well bad stuff happens to men too gender doesn’t matter’ i don’t even know what to do with you
I think I maybe just ate a bunch of moldy tomatoes
we got a question on AAGU about if white people can make casual racist jokes with their POC friends if their POC friends don’t seem to mind it and seem to be okay with it. i said nope because no racism allowed, not even in the context of jokes. and then i got another ask from a POC saying that just because you think a POC might be okay with it doesn’t mean they are, and many people of color don’t speak up or call out offensive stuff all the time just because generally when we’re hanging out with friends, we don’t want people to start treating us like we’re overdramatic or causing problems, etc. sometimes it’s just better to keep quiet and let it happen.
and i think that’s such an important point because even in my own personal experience, like calling out your white friends is most definitely NOT an easy thing to do. white people don’t realize that and keep making the jokes and thinking “well my POC friends are ok with it, so it must be ok”. that’s why “my black friend said this” is bullshit because your black friend might just be lying to you so you won’t freak out and accuse them of creating drama. they might just be hiding their actual feelings because guess what? standing up to mobs of casually racist, entitled white people is not easy.
i remember for my last couple of years of high school, my close friends started making terrorist jokes about me, and it was fine at first because it was supposed to be funny and only a joke and of course they didn’t REALLY feel that way etc etc. but then it got annoying because it was the same 10 unclever stupid little jokes, and then people who weren’t my close friends but rather just people i saw around at school did it too. and finally i was just like “ok you guys stop. this has gotten too annoying, i want you to stop.” and they all told me i was being too dramatic because “damn, it’s just a joke.”
but before the breaking point, i dealt with it quietly. whenever i’d meet someone new, i’d think “oh yay this person knows not to make terrorist jokes about me, finally some relief.” when i was a senior, i thought, “yay i’m going to college where people won’t make terrorist jokes about me!” and then one of my friends who was gonna go to college with me started doing it in high school, and i literally remember almost crying and being like “no please you can’t start because then it’ll happen throughout college too.”
that’s what happens. i’d venture to say most POC don’t particularly think your shit is that funny, but they don’t wanna be the one person causing problems. so no, white people, casual racist jokes are never okay, no matter how much fun you think your POC friends are having with it too.
Day 18 of White History Month: Brownface and Romani Persecution (by moonandthewitch)
In contemporary media, the image of the Gypsy is a staple archetype. From Disney movies to popular fantasy novels the romanticized version of a real ethnic group, the Romani people, can be found. The archetype of the free spirited Gypsy is so popular that it is often replicated through costume, from casual Halloween interpretations to Renaissance faire actors. The act of “playing Gypsy” has an incredibly dark history, and can be dated back to Renaissance court theatre.
During the 16th century, Western European courts became increasingly obsessed with the exotic. Around the same time, the Romani people, an ethnic group originally from India, started migrating west from Eastern Europe to escape enslavement. Due to the supposed “exotic” looks of the Roma people, many courtiers and actors donned brown face paint and blackened hair, mimicking the ethnic group. The English in particular were intrigued by the foreign language and looks of the Romani, and called them “Gypsies” believing they came from Egypt. Faux Gypsydom became incredibly popular during masquerades and theatrical performances, and many early modern English plays focused on the subject of the Gypsy, often portraying the ethnic groups as deceptive and mysterious, easily praying on the gullible white Englishman or Spaniard. The fetishization of Romani people, perpetuated by Renaissance brown-face mimicking the illusive Gypsy, caused a rise in oversexualization of Romani women. Many Romani were coerced to entertain in court for white nobility, who further sexualized and fetishized the ethnic group.
Because of English xenophobia and the stereotypes of the Gypsy thief, England’s love affair with the fetishization of Romani people took a dark turn, and England instated their Gypsy laws in 1554, which made it illegal to be a Roma in England, and was punishable by death. Many other European Countries instated similar laws, causing Romani to adopt a nomadic lifestyle in search for safe havens. This law also made it illegal to be a “counterfeit gypsy,” or one who donned brown-face, as it made it difficult to tell who was white and who was Roma. Fears of swindling Gypsies and with the need for white supremacy in a budding colonial empire, England often transported Roma people to the American colonies as slaves and indentured servants. Many other countries, such as Portugal and Spain, did the same, using Roma people as forced labor in Spanish and Portuguese colonies in the Americas.
Though England and many other European countries made the existence of Romani people illegal, fetishization of Romani people continued to be popular in theatrical performances, such as Ben Jonson’s The Gypsies Metomorphosis and Bizet’s Carmen, down to allusions of Cleopatra’s Gypsy nature in Shakespeare’s play. Many of these performances employed the use of brown face to mimic the exotic and perceived “ugly” physical attributes of Roma people.
White people’s fascination with the figure of the Gypsy continues to this day, with Renaissance faires employing Gypsy troops and media productions and works of fiction carrying the torch of the exotic stereotype, whether it be the Gypsy trickster, The Gitana prostitute, or the Cigany sorcerer, baring little to no difference of Renaissance fetishization of Roma people.
This is why there is a long history of black female artists being tagged as divas for refusing to let anyone they didn’t know touch their hair. White people who don’t know how to do black hair are incredibly common in the industry, but we’re all supposed to pretend they know even when it leaves people bald. That’s a level of privileged logic that I don’t get, but I hear pretty often.
Remember that hair school chick who got all pissy because a WOC demanded that she get a WOC to do her hair??? This is exactly how that shit works. The narcissism of these folks actin like they the best but don’t know a co wash from a hot oil treatment when it comes to Black hair.